To speak when others listen

To listen when others speak. To see then judge. To shatter.

I recently was the "victim" of a she saw, she told, she accused event. I never want this occurrence to happen to me again. As much as I disliked the entire process it made me think, '' have i ever done this?'' By this I mean, have I ever saw someone or heard something and then gone on to tell others of this ''siting''.

I have, I have definitely gossiped and talked as if I knew exactly what I was talking about, when in fact all I knew was nothing. What happened to me was extremely hurtful and I do not want to un knowingly do that to someone else. Now here comes the hard part, to not gossip is extremely difficult and easier said then done.

In my defense I have never gossiped to the point where someone stops speaking to their family. Or have I?... How would one know the extent of damage caused?

In the past 7 months I have become rather calloused to the idea of judging others, I see absolutely no point in doing so and have even less tolerance for those who do. Gossip is to judging as judging is to gossip. They do nothing but confuse, hurt and lower IQ's.

I used to be very black and white when it came to right and wrong, except of course when it was regarding my actions then I had some room for grey.

I have realised that I have enough to do and barely ever accomplish it, why would I add the impossible task of judging others who are just trying to make it through their day?

As much as crappy experiences bring us growth, they are still hurtful and crappy! However I have chosen to walk away from the crap and grow from the lesson.

Which to me is to smile, do the best you can and appreciate others for their efforts.

Here's to turning crappy experiences into fertilizer!